I don't know you and I just came across this post -- all I can think of is how fortunate your children are that YOU gave yourself permission to make different choices than the familiar. Because of that, they stand a chance.
For myself, it was so long ago that I left my abusive ex of seven years. No children. But I know so many women close to my heart who have not made the tough choices you have -- and tough choices they are.
But what's the alternative?! A life devoted to degradation and misery? Perhaps now you and your children can exhale...
The could have beens! Oh how they never end! And always rooted in illusion. As an ex addict, I know THAT one well, too.
I would love to stay connected and connect you with a I know, Simply Sarah, whose parenting differently has changed her daughter's trajectory forever.
All I can say, congratu-fucking-lations! You've done what so many choose not. And I, a total stranger to you on the Internet, FULLY support you 💯
Stela, thank you for the encouragement. I deeply appreciate it. One of the things I want to help curate here is a community of people supporting each other; and especially a safe space for victims of DV to speak out.
I’m so glad you got out and that you didn’t have children with him. I love my babies so much but they deserve so much better than this, and having children with your abuser makes things so much harder. I’m lucky my family helped me get out or I’d still be trapped.
We are breathing easier, regulating, settling into our new normal. It’s been rough lately— I don’t know what my ex has been doing but my toddlers are having a really hard time.
I will check out your friend’s substack. It sounds familiar to me— I think I may already follow/subscribe. Edit: I don’t follow them yet. Can you link their publication?
Thank you for being here and for taking the time to leave positivity here. 🩵
I can tell you’re an amazing young woman, and I’m so looking forward to reading along as you heal and bloom.
Proud to share a first name with you, too :) It means “princess,” but I like to think of it as meaning “woman who deserves love, respect, and good treatment - which includes being listened to.”
Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing this experience. So many of us have had to learn to love ourselves ‘the hard way,’ and I pray that your healing journey holds you gently ❤️
Thank you, Jen. I’m grateful for your presence. It is heartbreaking how many of us have learned these lessons the hard way. We are conditioned from a young age to accept coercive control and mistake it for care/love. Boys are taught that emotion is weak and that dominance is strength. It’s a system that has created millions of abusers.
I don't know you and I just came across this post -- all I can think of is how fortunate your children are that YOU gave yourself permission to make different choices than the familiar. Because of that, they stand a chance.
For myself, it was so long ago that I left my abusive ex of seven years. No children. But I know so many women close to my heart who have not made the tough choices you have -- and tough choices they are.
But what's the alternative?! A life devoted to degradation and misery? Perhaps now you and your children can exhale...
The could have beens! Oh how they never end! And always rooted in illusion. As an ex addict, I know THAT one well, too.
I would love to stay connected and connect you with a I know, Simply Sarah, whose parenting differently has changed her daughter's trajectory forever.
All I can say, congratu-fucking-lations! You've done what so many choose not. And I, a total stranger to you on the Internet, FULLY support you 💯
Stela, thank you for the encouragement. I deeply appreciate it. One of the things I want to help curate here is a community of people supporting each other; and especially a safe space for victims of DV to speak out.
I’m so glad you got out and that you didn’t have children with him. I love my babies so much but they deserve so much better than this, and having children with your abuser makes things so much harder. I’m lucky my family helped me get out or I’d still be trapped.
We are breathing easier, regulating, settling into our new normal. It’s been rough lately— I don’t know what my ex has been doing but my toddlers are having a really hard time.
I will check out your friend’s substack. It sounds familiar to me— I think I may already follow/subscribe. Edit: I don’t follow them yet. Can you link their publication?
Thank you for being here and for taking the time to leave positivity here. 🩵
I can tell you’re an amazing young woman, and I’m so looking forward to reading along as you heal and bloom.
Proud to share a first name with you, too :) It means “princess,” but I like to think of it as meaning “woman who deserves love, respect, and good treatment - which includes being listened to.”
Thank you, Sarah! 🥹 I love your meaning for our name, too. 🩵
Thank you for sharing so vulnerably, I see you ❤️
Thank you friend 🩵🩵
Thank you for sharing your story and healing journey.
Thank you for reading and engaging 🩵
Thank you for sharing your journey and experiences 💔
Thank you for being here 🩵
Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing this experience. So many of us have had to learn to love ourselves ‘the hard way,’ and I pray that your healing journey holds you gently ❤️
Thank you, Jen. I’m grateful for your presence. It is heartbreaking how many of us have learned these lessons the hard way. We are conditioned from a young age to accept coercive control and mistake it for care/love. Boys are taught that emotion is weak and that dominance is strength. It’s a system that has created millions of abusers.
Healing & love,
Sarah