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Alys Hedd's avatar

Unfortunately I can relate to so much of this. I often find myself wondering whether it was intentional gaslighting with a full on plan, or he did it without realising - either way he's an asshole too. It took me twelve years to get out and nine years later I'm still picking out the real me from the shadows he created. I've only discovered recently that I'm AuDHD and I think that makes us even more vulnerable to this kind of person.

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Kelly's avatar

Something I have realized in similar circumstances was I accepted the behavior that I felt I deserved. I grew up having to love someone exactly how THEY needed it to receive breadcrumbs of the love I needed. And I couldn’t expect more. And I had to be perfect and exhaustive in my efforts…as I healed that, I realize that I deserve to receive ALL of the love I put out…for myself. So I started to do it for me…and I found the right people who could love me well started to show up. I still struggle with feel like I always need to over perform…but I’m kinder to myself now. Hope you are too 💕

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